Exploring Trauma with Monica Karam
The last two years have been extremely tough for the people of Lebanon. Not only have they had to contend with the global pandemic, but they faced a horrific blast that ripped through their city, and watched their life savings nearly evaporate in the bank. It’s been one blow after another in an endless stream of difficulties. For some people these experiences can lead to trauma which can have long lasting effects on mental health. To further explore trauma and understand how we can help ourselves recover from it, we spoke to Monica Karam, a Lebanese-Canadian international intuition and clarity coach. She shared with us some of her mental health techniques for dealing with trauma and how our intuition can actually guide us along our path to healing.
Trauma – What is it?
Before we get to our guest, let me first define trauma using an excerpt from, Psychology Today, which explains it rather clearly:
“Trauma is a person’s emotional response to a distressing experience. Few people can go through life without encountering some kind of trauma. Unlike ordinary hardships, traumatic events tend to be sudden and unpredictable, involve a serious threat to life—like bodily injury or death—and feel beyond a person’s control. Most importantly, events are traumatic to the degree that they undermine a person’s sense of safety in the world and create a sense that catastrophe could strike at any time. Parental loss in childhood, auto accidents, physical violence, sexual assault, military combat experiences, the unexpected loss of a loved one are commonly traumatic events.”
It seems that most people will face trauma in their life and it can happen in varying degrees depending on the experience as Monica explained in our talk. “It can be post-traumatic stress disorder that some war veterans face, it can be divorce, the August 4th explosion in Lebanon for example, grief and or even failing and repeating the first grade in school. All of these types of events can get stuck in our physical, emotional and mental body and most of the time we are not aware of it because there are no ‘symptoms’. Over time these different events get stored and pile up. We then find ourselves suddenly physically ill.”
Monica receives clients from all over the world and has been able to advise and help people virtually via Zoom if she cannot meet in person, due to pandemic lockdowns or geographic differences. She helps her clients tap into the ‘dark’, their traumatic experience from the past, to be able to declutter and eventually help them get better. “These are places people are often scared to go to,” she explains. Monica compares trauma to the programming on the computer that needs to ‘get removed’ so it doesn’t get repeated. “It’s like a clean-up that we need to do. Remove the old software that is no longer effective,” she stresses.
Using Our Intuition to Heal
Intuition is a key factor in Monica’s work which she describes as ‘our inner GPS,’ or gut feeling. It’s a powerful ‘voice’ that guides us and lies in each one of us. However, due to the piled up traumas people no longer hear it she explains. Instead people hear the louder voice of the piled up traumas that may tell them they are ‘not good enough’ or ‘they are bad’ and so forth. “The quieter voice is your best friend. It says, ‘if you just listen to me, I will guide you,’” explains Monica.
Monica has been able to use her intuition, which she calls ‘the voice’ to help her clients. Initially she did not trust it and was skeptical, but once she knew it was her ‘true self talking to her’, she began to act on it. Today, guided by her intuition, she gets the thoughts or messages to ask the right questions which then triggers people (her clients) to talk about the source of the trauma that is bothering them. “In the beginning it was uncomfortable to ask these questions,” Monica admits. “Such as asking people if they were emotionally or sexually abused.” She even found an alarming number of clients who were sexually abused as children – and some did not even know it – having suppressed it in order to deal with the trauma.
The mind functions on the old programming of what happened throughout our life, explains Monica. As a result, we are functioning on ‘false programming’ and we need to clean it up. In other words, decluttering the programming and listening to ourselves is the road to healing. “Grief is energy which needs to come through to be released,” says Monica. Some clients have felt better after one session and others require more, but she says her job is to teach people to do the declutter work on themselves once they learn the technique.
The method she uses requires the client to concentrate and reply in truth no matter how ugly it may be to retrieve the past trauma. It’s a process that guides the client to ‘locate the negative energy’ which is stored somewhere in their physical body (within the seven chakras) and to get rid of it. Monica uses a mix of modalities in her trauma decluttering therapies, which she even tried out on me during our talk. However, rather than explaining it, I recommend that you see it being done in our Zoom interview, which you can view by clicking on this link https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FLzDfPf6PVI. You can see the interview in its entirety (it’s 27 minutes long) to also better understand how decluttering trauma and listening to our intuition work hand in hand as explained by Monica.
We hope you got some positive take-aways from my mental health talk with Monica for The Wellness Project. There are many other methods and different therapies to deal with stress and trauma today, so we hope you are able to work on relieving them to become healthier – both physically and mentally – and see what works for you. Thank you for your interest in The Wellness Project and as this year comes to an end, we want to wish you lots of happiness and wellness for the New Year!
First picture reference: https://highlandspringsclinic.org/blog/can-emotional-trauma-cause-brain-damage/